November 3
I wasn’t upto going to office so I bunked today. And my mom decided to call our gor maharaj (priest) to decide on the wedding date. And started the first argument. My wedding will most probably in June. Dad wants registered marriage as he wasn’t to avoid all the hassle of preparing for the wedding. And he thinks it’s a waste of money to feed people who are anyways going to criticise you. He might as well go on a world tour. And I totally agree. But mom wants a proper, proper wedding and she declares, “I know it wont rain” (I didn’t know my mom was working as a weather man). Anyways, fiance is oblivion of all this and god knows where he is. And ya, I also got a dose of “Nobody would want to keep up with you, especially in your new house.” (This would probably be for the hundreth time or I guess I have lost count now). But really, why am I getting married? Does anybody have an answer to that?
Monday, November 2, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Oct 24
October 24
As a journalist you get to see and explore different kinds of worlds. And for a story for Sunday’s cover page I was trying to explore the dream fantasy world that the rich and the famous create during their weddings. I was expecting to hear all about Versailles palace and gourmet menu for the lunches and designer clothes but there was much more. I heard about artificial beaches being created, all guests at the wedding given Gucci and Armani bag. And there is more – flower holi and elephant polo matches. Ooof!! Fiancé and I are struggling to have a registered marriage as we have to save the money to buy a home, rather pay the down payment for a 1bhk house that we will have to buy as there is no place for our privacy in his parent’s house.
As a journalist you get to see and explore different kinds of worlds. And for a story for Sunday’s cover page I was trying to explore the dream fantasy world that the rich and the famous create during their weddings. I was expecting to hear all about Versailles palace and gourmet menu for the lunches and designer clothes but there was much more. I heard about artificial beaches being created, all guests at the wedding given Gucci and Armani bag. And there is more – flower holi and elephant polo matches. Ooof!! Fiancé and I are struggling to have a registered marriage as we have to save the money to buy a home, rather pay the down payment for a 1bhk house that we will have to buy as there is no place for our privacy in his parent’s house.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Oct 22
Oct 22
I am currently listening to ‘Raat ke dhai baje koi shahnaai baje’ from Kaminey. I also hear my brains at 2.30 am but the difference is that it’s not of shanai but all the ugly questions that my mind pops up which I don’t even want to think of. I am not thinking, have shut my brains (How will you buy a new house? I a house of 2bhk with parent-in-laws and bro and sis-in-law already staying, where will you stay? Will you get a separate wardrobe? Will fiancé find a job on land after wedding?) Bloody hell, I really don’t want to get married.
I am currently listening to ‘Raat ke dhai baje koi shahnaai baje’ from Kaminey. I also hear my brains at 2.30 am but the difference is that it’s not of shanai but all the ugly questions that my mind pops up which I don’t even want to think of. I am not thinking, have shut my brains (How will you buy a new house? I a house of 2bhk with parent-in-laws and bro and sis-in-law already staying, where will you stay? Will you get a separate wardrobe? Will fiancé find a job on land after wedding?) Bloody hell, I really don’t want to get married.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
October 21 2009
As a journalist I have had lunches and dinners with many colleagues but today was different. My best friend in USA and a guy in office who apparently had a crush on me share the same birthday and that’s today. The guy in my office is a decent (good looking, non-interfering) guy who is an outsider to the city, he is a great friend and my boss has suggested many times that I at least go on one date with him. But I haven’t done this since I have known fiancé and that is for eight years now (Forget this guy in office I have never ever been on a date with anybody except fiancé. Am I not a loser?). As it happened today my boss decided us to ditch us after we reached the venue and my colleague and I sat down for a quite dinner at an Udipi place in Matunga to celebrate his birthday. I have always found him very slow (I lose my patience every time he tries to sell a story idea to my boss becauser he talks in installments) but today I realized that he is very chivalrous and also quite cute. After we wrapped the dinner he asked me to hug him, I gave him a hurried half-hug and tried to hide the pink on my cheeks. And I must say that I was happy (Actually blushing and also made a mental note that I don’t need to take any shit from fiancé ever, if he gives me any. I am a confident woman today). The bride to be gave a second thought to another man for the first time in the last eight years. Bloody hell! What exactly is happening? All this, in the midst of thinking of a marriage that will supposedly happen in June.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Bride to be
Bride to be
Oct 20
It all started at the New Year (Saal Mubarak) get-together of my mom’s side, I mean my mother’s relatives. From my 84 years ba who can hardly walk to 4 mamas and one masi and their kids, my innumerable cousins and four of us – The Doshi parivaar and also the ‘would be jijaji’ all were there. Kanan ben is getting married in November and it’s a really happy occasion. While seeing and appreciating her trousseau (I think 4 sarees and 6 dresses = 11) I was given special attention by one and all as I am ‘the bride to be’ and need to start taking training of things which obviously includes shopping. (I don’t understand what such a big deal about shopping is?) Nevermind….so I am the bride to be. I am engaged almost for one and a half years (it’s way too long a courtship period for Gujurati standards) and my best friend…oopps! My fiancé (That sounds a little odd) is on cruise for nine months at a stretch, so technically I have had a 6 months courtship but they say that counting things that way is illogical. But can you believe it that I have been the ‘bride to be’ for one and a half years now and will continue to be, perhaps till coming June.
My parents and my fiance’s parents are very confused on exactly when they want to get us married. He won’t come back before June 15 (Though, he can apply for an early vacation but I am sure he won’t. Do all guys become escapists nearing their wedding?) And according to his mom we have to get married before July or else wait till 2012 and I am sure my mom will have a semi-heart attack if the wedding is prolonged that far. She has been trying really hard to do all things possible to make me fit in and adjust to the new household after marriage (It’s just that I am not there as yet) like teach me to broom, to cook and also not get into an argument among many others lessons (there have been hordes of – your mother-in-law will throw you out of the house and after wedding that is your real house). And of course all my relatives are really thinking that there is something amiss, how a Gujju girl can have such a long courtship? Ya, so June it is, most probably. But it will rain cats and dogs then, my dad has already predicted that “It hasn’t rain enough this year so it will rain really hard next near). So we may have a simple wedding (nobody has defined simple as yet). Well, last year when my fiancé’s elder brother got married there were 1000 people attended his wedlock…Ooof! (I had always heard that South Indians lead simple, calculated, planned lives). And my dad has been sick and tired of all the tantrums that he faced in my fiyas (maternal aunts) weddings and he is also a bit of a socialist so he is totally for a court marriage. Mom is conservative so she wants the wedding with all the vidhis and etc. (And my mom-in-law is okay with anything by which her office colleagues will be pleased) and my fiancé wants to sway me away on his Royal Enfield bike after the bidaai (He is never around to discuss more). So we don’t know how and why but we do know that monsoon wedding is perhaps in my destiny. Quoting mom “Things will automatically fall in place don’t you worry.” Well I am sure all this ambiguity will lead us to somewhere at least.
Oh by the way. My mom-in-law has sent fiancé’s date of birth, exact birth time etc and my mom will get mine and his details matched by a Pandit to find a suitable day for the wedding in the month of June. But don’t you think we should actually take advice from the weather bureau?
Oct 20
It all started at the New Year (Saal Mubarak) get-together of my mom’s side, I mean my mother’s relatives. From my 84 years ba who can hardly walk to 4 mamas and one masi and their kids, my innumerable cousins and four of us – The Doshi parivaar and also the ‘would be jijaji’ all were there. Kanan ben is getting married in November and it’s a really happy occasion. While seeing and appreciating her trousseau (I think 4 sarees and 6 dresses = 11) I was given special attention by one and all as I am ‘the bride to be’ and need to start taking training of things which obviously includes shopping. (I don’t understand what such a big deal about shopping is?) Nevermind….so I am the bride to be. I am engaged almost for one and a half years (it’s way too long a courtship period for Gujurati standards) and my best friend…oopps! My fiancé (That sounds a little odd) is on cruise for nine months at a stretch, so technically I have had a 6 months courtship but they say that counting things that way is illogical. But can you believe it that I have been the ‘bride to be’ for one and a half years now and will continue to be, perhaps till coming June.
My parents and my fiance’s parents are very confused on exactly when they want to get us married. He won’t come back before June 15 (Though, he can apply for an early vacation but I am sure he won’t. Do all guys become escapists nearing their wedding?) And according to his mom we have to get married before July or else wait till 2012 and I am sure my mom will have a semi-heart attack if the wedding is prolonged that far. She has been trying really hard to do all things possible to make me fit in and adjust to the new household after marriage (It’s just that I am not there as yet) like teach me to broom, to cook and also not get into an argument among many others lessons (there have been hordes of – your mother-in-law will throw you out of the house and after wedding that is your real house). And of course all my relatives are really thinking that there is something amiss, how a Gujju girl can have such a long courtship? Ya, so June it is, most probably. But it will rain cats and dogs then, my dad has already predicted that “It hasn’t rain enough this year so it will rain really hard next near). So we may have a simple wedding (nobody has defined simple as yet). Well, last year when my fiancé’s elder brother got married there were 1000 people attended his wedlock…Ooof! (I had always heard that South Indians lead simple, calculated, planned lives). And my dad has been sick and tired of all the tantrums that he faced in my fiyas (maternal aunts) weddings and he is also a bit of a socialist so he is totally for a court marriage. Mom is conservative so she wants the wedding with all the vidhis and etc. (And my mom-in-law is okay with anything by which her office colleagues will be pleased) and my fiancé wants to sway me away on his Royal Enfield bike after the bidaai (He is never around to discuss more). So we don’t know how and why but we do know that monsoon wedding is perhaps in my destiny. Quoting mom “Things will automatically fall in place don’t you worry.” Well I am sure all this ambiguity will lead us to somewhere at least.
Oh by the way. My mom-in-law has sent fiancé’s date of birth, exact birth time etc and my mom will get mine and his details matched by a Pandit to find a suitable day for the wedding in the month of June. But don’t you think we should actually take advice from the weather bureau?
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